~~ Consider together which parts of your disagreement are solvable.
~~ Affirm the other peson's position
~~ For solvable problems, brainstorm what you have in common around the issue and find a workable solution you can both live with.
~~ Agree to try out the solutions for a period of time and then reassess how they are working for each of you.
~~ Agree to disagree: this can be invaluable for the two of you.
~~ Take ownership of your feelings using "I" statements.
~~ Accept that you each have your own style of communicating, even quirks that don't necessarily mean a talk is going poorly.
~~ If you are speaking with a loved one, always wrap up a heated discussion, especially when there has been a history of failing to achieve understanding with the person on prior occasions.