When a couple first enters into a life-partner relationship, it usually has an intoxicating glow. Each partner sees the other in a very positive light, and is eager to do nice things for them. When one asks for a cup of coffee, the response is likely to be "Sure, sweetie: do you want cream and sugar with that?" However, the reality and disappointments of being with the other person day in and day out gradually start to shade their initial rosy picture of married life. Frustrations develop, as the other spouse's flaws become apparent. After about a year or two, a request for coffee is likely to be met with "Get your own coffee."